One solution is the same as when you have e.g. a MX in the kitchen.
Put the MX in option 4. It will only respond with the Link instruction followed by TV/DVD etc.
If you place the Link instruction in the Beo4 at the first position under the List button, you'll get used to it easily.
You also then have the option to program the Beo4 in the bedroom as an "Link" only remote. It was something like : Standby + List, then 2 0 0 2 Go.